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So farewell then #GBBO

If ever proof were needed that Carter and I don’t have a conventional BDSM relationship (if that’s not an oxymoron) its perhaps demonstrated most clearly in our different attitudes to … Continue reading

October 26, 2016 · Leave a comment

Changing the conversation about men v rapists

We have written previously of Ched Evans, and also of the desire of some to shout “not all men” above the voices of those talking about violence perpetrated against them. … Continue reading

October 21, 2016 · Leave a comment

The myth of rationality

Understanding the anger and disappointment friends feel about the persistent allure Donald Trump and Nigel Farage have for some voters is challenging. Not challenging as in hard to understand, but … Continue reading

October 19, 2016 · Leave a comment

Swanger and Donald Trump

I’m trying not to say too much about Donald Trump. It’s not as if another voice is needed. Swagger anger, or swanger for short, is the narcissistic use of anger … Continue reading

October 11, 2016 · Leave a comment

Fear the Good Guys

  Content note for discussion of violence against women including rape and murder Marc Lepine Charles Joseph Whitman Peter Sutcliffe Elliot Rodgers Gary Ridegway Moses Sithole Gennady ¬†Mikhasevich Some of … Continue reading

October 4, 2016 · 1 Comment

Fragile masculinities

One of the things I like about Twitter is the way it lets me eavesdrop on conversations that I might not otherwise hear. Thanks to Tai Crimson I have ended … Continue reading

October 2, 2016 · 1 Comment

I’m gonna fucking kill you…

Amongst Labour MPs who don’t support Jeremy Corbyn, internet death threats are common currency. They talk about them and some, like the awful Yvette Cooper,use them as an excuse for … Continue reading

September 25, 2016 · Leave a comment

Victoria the Inaccurate

Jem mentioned to me that she’d watched an episode of Victoria, an ITV costume drama. It’s loosely based on the life of the woman who becamse Empress of India, etc…. … Continue reading

September 24, 2016 · Leave a comment

Ten of the best

This article tells you what one author thinks about every recorded Bruce Springsteen song. I haven’t the patience or the inclination to do that. Here are the ten that matter … Continue reading

September 23, 2016 · Leave a comment

Sex work and careers advice

The more I write, the less often I write, it’s partly a feature of having said many of the things I wish to already. It’s also though that nuance, inhabiting … Continue reading

September 19, 2016 · Leave a comment

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