This is our truth, tell us yours
She’s caught in the paradoxical trap of demanding privacy by making a public statement. Demanding that people stop talking about your sexual preferences by talking about your sexual preferences is never a good option.
That’s the position Jessie J is in though. She told us she was bisexual, and now she tells us she just wants a husband and a family.
I doubt Jessie will read this. If I really thought she would I’d try and explain that a cock and balls aren’t required for a husband, or for a family that creates a loving environment in which to bring up children.
Instead I’ll say just this. Being bi and identifying as bi are two different things, and they’re individually defined. I am not actively bisexual right now, but might be again in the future. I certainly was bi in the past, and never experienced my preferences as just a phase I was going through.
The loose language used by a pop star about her sexuality should surprise no-one. Being disappointed by it should be a surprise – Jessie J is, when all is said and done, just a chanteuse and occasional songwriter, not a moral arbiter and hero. Should anyone be surprised if her bisexuality is, like her fleeting pop career, just a phase she went through?