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Monthly Archives: December, 2014

Happy New Me, And You.

Reading this by stavvers I was struck by how for me also the year has been oddly balanced between personal good and so many struggles for others. ┬áThose closest to … Continue reading

December 31, 2014 · Leave a comment

The measure of a man

One of our founding principles, as the authors of this blog, is that we don’t do sidewalk diagnosis.Both Jem and myself read widely and have experience of listening to and … Continue reading

December 29, 2014 · Leave a comment

The Sunday Sermon; enter the babel fish, stage right.

I tend to avoid talking to atheists, and articles like this in Salon are part of the reason why. Faith is a feeling, a belief, a function of the heart. … Continue reading

December 28, 2014 · 1 Comment

The two hungers

It being Christmas time, when, traditionally, the BBC assumes its historic duty of telling us all how much we should consume to keep the economy afloat, it’s also the time … Continue reading

December 27, 2014 · Leave a comment

A Merry, submissive Christmas.

Carter wrote earlier about how in being the person he wants to be he has to move beyond the cliches of BDSM, the broken sadist dominating because they need to, … Continue reading

December 24, 2014 · 1 Comment

What S&M taught me about myself

One of our founding cliches here at Cigar Towers is Einsteins’s much abused quip about the definition of insanity being doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different results. It’s … Continue reading

December 24, 2014 · 6 Comments

What sex workers taught me about my career

I’m lucky enough to spend a lot of time talking to Jemima, the other half of this blog, who is a sexworker. One of the joys of social media is … Continue reading

December 21, 2014 · Leave a comment

The Sunday Sermon; Tidings of comfort and joy.

It’s a strange time of year, the build up to Christmas, with all the emotions good and bad that can bring, then the pregnant pause as we wait for New … Continue reading

December 21, 2014 · Leave a comment

Protecting the zone

There has been a lot of discussion of the suggestion by Yvette Cooper that protests outside clinics that provide abortions be made illegal. It is, as this article states, already … Continue reading

December 19, 2014 · 4 Comments

There but…

Sometimes I use this blog to muse aloud. These thoughts are just a first draft. It’s almost impossible to read the accounts of the Hillsborough inquest and not to ask … Continue reading

December 18, 2014 · 1 Comment

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