This is our truth, tell us yours
As it happens I’m watching Queen, in a 1975 concert.
If you like Queen, it’s fabulous.
Operatic rock with a huge layer of glam – what’s not to like?
I’m staring at Brian May in nylon pants, while Freddie rocks out in a spandex bib tights outfit that makes him look like a hairy biker who’s lost his shirt. I’d fuck both of them as soon as look at them, and if Freddie wanted me to bend over a monitor and let him fuck me I can’t be sure I’d ever say no.
However, there’s an obvious question.
Whenever I’ve been to swingers clubs, it’s the women who make all the effort. And that’s not, if you’ll forgive the Tom Jones quote, unusual.
I’ve been to Queen concerts, and it’s wall to wall denim. I went to watch Twisted Sister, and while the band were as queer as fuck in their costumes the audience were as straight as a die.
Why don’t men make the effort?
BTW, if you’re still reading, Freddie in the concert has just stripped to a shirt and shorts combo that is adorably fuckable. Yes, I know how he died, but he looked superb. The audience, in teeshirts and jeans, are looking at him like he’s an alien. I’m looking at him like he’s a sex object.
If you’re in a hetero swinging club where sex is on the agenda, why do the guys dress like they’ve gone to the pub to watch the Monday night football? Why don’t they make the effort? Why do some clubs insist on a towels only dress code as if somehow that will help?
I’m sure there are lots of our friends who can explain the difference, the cultural constraints that make men behave differently to women, but I want to say to men, why don’t you try? I watch women turn up to clubs, wearing corsets and lingerie, and I want to say to my fellow men, what’s stopping us from dressing to thrill? I genuinely don’t know the answer. My lovely sub dressed for me today, and stopped me in my tracks with her choice of costume, just as I have stopped her with my choice of boots or belts. Why don’t men try harder?