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So when I heard a married couple who are in the public eye had taken out a superinjunction to conceal the fact that one of them had enjoyed an extra-marital threesome I made a discovery about myself.
Even after reading one of the judgements in the case I initially assumed that the errant partner was male, and that he’d had what is commonly called and MMF threesome with a couple.
The point of this post isn’t to encourage you all to speculate about who the litigants are; the learning was in my realizing that despite having been in several of the comonplace variants of a threesome, in a range of roles (yes, dear reader, I have been both spit and, some years ago, the roast) I still made assumptions.
There’s a lesson in those assumptions, and it’s not just about news stories.On the weekend I was talking to a family member who cut our conversation short because they were about to go out for a walk with Ben, who I’d not heard of before. Since we’ve talked about this family member getting a dog in the past I was about to ask what breed Ben was, before the family member cut in and explained that Ben was a neighbour’s child they were babysitting.
Daniel Kahneman has written at great length about the differnece between fast and slow thinking,a nd the extento to which we use heuristics, which are often not rooted in evidence, to reach conclusions that defy our pretence at rationality.
I’m a rationalist; or rather, I like to pretend I am rational. The problem is that when I read Kahneman’s account of his research I irrationally reject the suggestion that maybe, my assumptions get in the way of logic.
A shocked reaction to discovering that my assumptions had led me astray is a sharp reminder that Kahneman and others might be right.